Marriages struggle to maintain relevance in 2018

by John Nathaniel 0

Beads of sweat filled her forehead as she put on her Cinderella glass heels and walked out of the dressing room.

The bar is filled with family members taking advantage of free drinks for the first hour.

Juliet Porter is only five minutes away from walking down the aisle and saying “I do” to her soon-to-be husband to become Juliet Hernandez.

“Try not to mess your mascara up,” her mother said as she placed a crystal crown on her head. She stands up to look at her finally complete wedding gown for the very first time in the mirror. “It’s beautiful,” she said.

He dress was all white with lace and silk intertwining at the base. Pearls hanging from her neck added a classic and vintage look to a very modern dress. Her dazzling personality matched the cream sequins and high leg slit.

She was only 19.

Hernandez might not know it but she is combating a trend by getting married at such a young age. Fewer people are getting married in California, dropping from about eight of 1,000 people to six of 1,000 people over the past 27 years according to the National Vital Statistics System.

In the 1950’s, 48 percent of people ages 18-32 were married, whereas nowadays its only 26 percent, according to Pew Research Center. This means the percent of marriages for people between the ages of 18-32 has dropped drastically from Baby Boomers to Millennials, most fearing that they will end up contributing to growing divorce statistics.

The scariest part of getting married young for most is the fear of divorce, and for good reason. This also means young people are staying single for a longer period of time.

Divorce rates have climbed to about 50 percent from only 12 percent in the 1950’s. Could this be because people don’t respect commitment, or because most people today think of marriage as more an end goal as opposed to a journey to help you reach your goal with a husband or wife at your side?

“When me and my wife got married we had very little, but we became successful together,” said a COC teacher who has been married for 30 years. “Nowadays, men and women want their careers set and their life to be hunky-dory before even considering getting married.”

Is it possible that many millennials are missing out on the benefit of having a companion to help them on their journey to greatness, or are relationships still going strong without people tying the knot?

The concept of marriage and even the word itself may be the gripe with most, possibly not accurately depicting how many of us are settling down, living, and even having kids together none-the-less. Also, when you are a young adult, just graduating high school or getting your first “real” job, if you don’t have family pressure or strong religious beliefs that make you feel like marriage is necessary, why would you?

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