Opinion: The ‘reality’ of Love

by Felisa Cardenas 728 views0

Pop culture has redefined how to find love over the years with The Bachelor to its spinoff The Bachelorette to MTV’s recent matchmaking endeavor Are You the One? People look for love everywhere. Some find love at a bar, others at the coffee shop, and still others find love online. Then there are the few people who try their luck at finding their soul mate on a reality show.

When contestants sign up for a chance of finding love on a reality show they’re also signing the dotted line to allow the world to watch and judge the success, or failure, of their potential relationship.

Once the cameras stop rolling these lovebirds, now household names, are ready to ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.

At least, that’s what The Bachelor winner Juan Pablo Galavis and his girlfriend Nikki Ferrell thought would happen once filming concluded. Yet, their romance is back in the spotlight as the couple signed up for the world to watch them work out their relationship woes on VH1’s Couple’s Therapy.

The couple revealed in a sneak peak of Wednesday’s episode that their struggles stem from not having private time together. While Galavis sees no problem with stopping to take a photo or two with a fan at dinner, Ferrell finds these interruptions to be rude.

When your relationship has been in the public eye from the beginning then fans are going to find it hard to break the habit of always being in the middle of your dates thanks to the show.

The sneak peak also shows Galavis and Ferrell admitting they gave the public too much access to their relationship, which in turn gave the media access to attack them.

Juan Pablo Galavis and Nikki Ferrell on Couple's Therapy
Juan Pablo Galavis and Nikki Ferrell on Couple’s Therapy

“The more we open up this relationship to show people into it, the more it gives them to attack us,” Ferrell said. “I want it to be a normal relationship… I just want to have my normal life.”

Galavis and Ferrell discuss their relationship being under fire from the media and general public and their desire to learn to handle situations they incur with their newfound fame.

Both these reality stars participated in a televised social experiment that allowed cameras to follow the development of their relationship, which allowed for more than their close friends and family to voice their unwarranted opinions on their relationship.

Appearing on another reality show that allows viewers more access to your relationship and your issues might not be the smartest way to go about establishing a “normal” relationship that Nikki Ferrell is looking for.


This article is in response to Steve Helling’s article on People.com.

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